So to bring you up to speed….
I had a dub mast on the last leap year – Feb 29th. I had chemo. I had expanders (temporary implants) put in. Every week plastics uses this huge ass needle to inject more fluid in the expander so your skin can grow to accommodate real implants. I finally had implants put in. The bridge between both implants broke. So I essentially had one huge implant. The highest peak from each boob went straight across; you couldn’t even see my chest plate. I had those implants removed and smaller ones put in. I developed a SUPER RARE (of course) infection called vibrio. You contract vibrio from eating raw shellfish. I have not eaten raw shellfish nor did I put raw shellfish in my boobs. I had surgery to take the implants out and rinse them out from the infection. Then I had a picc line (tube that goes in your vein to IV deliver meds above your heart) installed. The line essentially went from my elbow to around my armpit to just above my heart. It is so gross. I had 3 IV meds through that every day that my bestie had to administer. I went through 3 weeks of that meds and 2 weeks of oral antibiotics. The day I was cleared from the infection to get my last reconstructive surgery, I came home and my shirt was covered in blood and infection. When I told my Dr, he said – you have to have the new new implants removed, and so I had my SECOND double mastectomy. I am sure many of you wonder what a dub mast (or as I say, dude boobs) look like – so here you go….
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I am starting over (after ALL of above) to ground zero on my reconstructive surgeries. That’s adding a year to my whole cancer process. Shit, at this point, I am going to be 5 years cancer free before my reconstructive is complete.
Anyway, above pic is me holding my drains with a wannabe ponytail because my hair hasn’t grown back from chemo. I try to stay so positive about this experience. But, Lord, help me. I am running out of positivity and strength. Who gets TWO double mastectomies? What are the odds of getting cancer in my case anyway? Who gets VIBRIO (out of all things) in their implants?
You would think I must have awful karma. You would think I must be super awful to everyone I meet. But I don’t *think* I am. Why do I keep having this bad luck? Don’t get it. What do I need to learn? Am I missing something? So many questions and nothing but more pain and more surgeries and more immune problems from those, thus more sickness. I just want things to go smoothly! What do I need to do for things to go smoothly?! I wish there was an easy guideline to follow. But since there isn’t, I must continue to be strong, let bad news roll off my back, stay focused on the positive…My mantras are starting to lose their impact though. I am tired. I am tired of hurting. I am tired of being sick. I am tired of bed rest. I just want to feel normal!!!
My brother came over today. He helped change my gauze from my drains and helped wrap me back up (pressure on the dub mast so no fluid buildup) and in the middle of it, he said “If it makes you feel better, at least you didn’t cut your finger.” (He cut his finger on a bottle a few weeks ago.) For real?! Are you really going to compare a cut finger to a second double mastectomy? I can’t even remember how many surgeries I have had in the last few years, but “at least I didn’t cut my finger open on a bottle.”
I know he didn’t say that to hurt my feelings or anything. But it did remind me why I stay so strong and I try not to bitch. There are so many other people out there who have it way worse; who would view my circumstance as the “cut finger” in comparison to theirs.
I am sorry I am babbling. I know there’s no flow to this story. I just needed to get it all off my chest.